How to be a Good Loser (If You Have to Be)

7:48 AM GMT+01:00 on July 25, 2025

Racquet’s See You In Court is a regular column in which I, Melissa Kenny, a famously mediocre lifelong player, heed reader questions about tennis, be they desperate (Help! I’ve won a few matches moonballing and now I can’t stop!), desperate in a different way (Where are the hot young tennis players in my area?) or life-threatening (Is it just me or are all tennis shoes fugly?). What I’m trying to say is, AMA! Look out for prompts on Racquet’s Instagram, or make yourself known in my DMs.

Maybe you don’t even play for points. But you’ve modeled your game on the games of winners, and/or pay a coach handsomely to help you improve and eventually… win.  The only constant is win. And because no-one sets out to play poorly, it’s difficult to know how to lose.

Maybe you don’t even play for points. But you’ve modeled your game on the games of winners, and/or pay a coach handsomely to help you improve and eventually… win.  The only constant is win. And because no-one sets out to play poorly, it’s difficult to know how to lose.